After having a few conversations with friends and leaders, I have come to realise there is one thing that many people really struggle with. I have seen a trend with people who start becoming despondent, or even angry. Sometimes it is a result of pride. Sometimes it is caused by a lack of understanding or even low self-esteem. This simple action can literally be the difference between success and failure.
Simply put, all we need to do is ask.
In a world crammed with information, I have seen young adults especially turn to their phone for answers more than anything else. “Google it” is a very common part of what our lives have become. But because we have become so reliant on the finite answers of the general consensus online, we have shied away from the questions that take a bit longer to answer.
The thing is, some answers are more than just a few written words. Sometimes it requires us to understand the nuances of the environment and the experiences of lifetimes long before our own. Sometimes the answer lies in another question that would challenge you more than you would be comfortable with. Sometimes it lies in the silent expression of the one you ask.
People perish because of a lack of knowledge. And just because we live in the information age does not mean we don’t need to ask for help. Expecting people to recognise what you need help with is a really narrow way to live. The fact is, no matter how amazing the people around you are, no one is more invested in who you are than yourself. So ask. Ask for wisdom on how to deal with your finances. Ask why things are the way they are in your family. Ask for help.
There are so many people who are walking past with invaluable experience and advice. It may require some humility. It may mean you need to be responsible with the answers you receive. But I can tell you from experience that it is those answers that change your life. If you don’t know how to ask, let me help you walk it out:
- Honestly assess your life. I can guarantee you will need help in at least one area.
- Identify someone you respect in that specific area.
- Ask them. Whether it is an email, a nerve wracking conversation or scheduling a meeting, if you are respectful and open you will receive the answer you need.
Sometimes the answer you receive may not be what you are looking for. It may be the opposite of what you were hoping for. But if you are asking the right people, the answer you receive will definitely be what you need to hear.
Ultimately, when it comes to the deeper questions of life, the best place to question freely and find many answers is in a relationship with God. If you want to find wisdom on where you are at and who you are, I would encourage you to start by clicking the link below.