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Be Uniquely You

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Satisfaction is a word that very few people can give testimony to. Everybody always wants somebody else’s everything by wanting to be like that somebody.

Let’s take hip hop music for example. With it being so big and culturally influential, it seems like every ‘G’ and ‘homie’ wants to be the next Jay-Z!  The reality however is that just because you like listening to KRS-One or 2Pac it doesn’t mean that you can rap.

I get to listen to a lot of aspiring rappers and a big shout out to them for representing the culture. I however agree with my boy Cream of Flow Motion’s sentiment that “perhaps you’re a more gifted listener and supporter of the culture than the rapper you think you are”. In case you’ve missed it, it’s ok for you not to be a rapper. It’s ok to simply be good at being you and sometimes, it means NOT being a rapper.

So because I said rapper, you think this post is all about hip hop and dissing wanna-be rappers. That’s where you get it twisted. Check it out; as much as many people would like to be the CEO of a big corporate company, they’re simply not gifted to do so. However, that doesn’t mean they cannot be a brilliant receptionist, for example.

Many people struggle in the area of satisfaction and always want to be or do what others have. I reckon satisfaction is found in fully understanding and embracing your identity because it gives you purpose.

Perhaps you need to stop rapping and start being a supporter because that’s what you’re truly good at.

Bottom line is we’ve all got that something special about us, something unique that the next person aint got!  So, rather than trying to be good at something we’re not, why not focus our energy on stuff we’re really excellent at?!  It’s time to be uniquely you!

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5 Keys To Standing Strong

It is always incredible to hear stories of how people have become successful and the various struggles they went through to get there. We actually hear a lot of these stories, the majority of the time they come from high powered people or those who have fame and fortune, but an ordinary person can still think that success is unattainable.

Could you lead yourself to success? Could you keep a goal in mind and continue to push towards it even though the promise kept being just one meter out of reach?

Here are 5 keys to standing strong and learning to lead yourself:

Stand, Strong, Struggles, Withstand, and then Stay Standing

  1. In order to stand you need to find a place to stand; you have to find a rock, some steady ground to be on – a foundation that will not be moved. You have to know who you are, decide what you believe and make sure that it is solid ground, solid truth. You can do almost anything because you will always be sturdy, you will always have a solid springboard to jump from.
  1. If you want to lead you need to have a place to stand and then be strong in that position. Standing strong on a foundation means that you must no longer be depending solely on yourself but on the rock that you stand: you are no longer depending on your own understanding, ability and will power, you are being strong in the thing you are connected to, the thing you are standing on… why not be standing on, depending on, the creator of the universe?
  1. Then comes the struggle. The struggles always come. Who is this struggle against? It is not really with people (against flesh and blood) but against rulers and against authorities right? But also against evil powers. We are often not arguing against the person we are arguing with but against the thing inside them.
  1. Once you have overcome the struggle you need to rebuild again, but the next struggle doesn’t seem so hard because you are learning to withstand them, you are building resistance, you are not as afraid or devastated. You are learning to withstand. Again, you need to know what you believe in to be able to withstand
  1. Then, stay standing. God has given us victory but it doesn’t mean that we are the reason for the victory. We need to remain in Him and in His promises to remain in the victory.

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Joost Van Der Westhuizen Chooses Life

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Former South African rugby star, Joost van der Westhuizen was given between two and five years to live when he was diagnosed with motor neurone disease in 2011.

In his words, he’s been on a death bed since being diagnosed in 2011 after first noticing a weakness in his right arm in 2008. Rather than be downbeat, he’s taking on MND head-on, much like a Lomu tackle.

‘When something goes wrong in somebody’s life they say. “Why me?” It’s actually quite simple, why not? Why not me? You have a choice. Either you sit and home and deteriorate and die, or you stand up and you do what you love,’ he said.

‘Everybody’s going to die somehow, and the moment I realised I had to find a positive. I have an opportunity to fix my life 100 per cent before I go.

Joost has since been campaigning around the world for MND-related causes and trying to raise funds to help find an elusive cure through his J9 Foundation, with the help of his family.

We all have been given the gift of life, the privilege to breathe and experience relationship, love and potentially enjoy life!  As life’s complications get in the way and various difficult tragedies befall us, we loose that great excitement of living, and as we age, we become ever grateful at the prospect of life coming to an end.  Slightly drastic perhaps, but if we’re to be brutally honest, sometimes we do feel like giving up!

Ultimately, we have the choice of life or death.  If anyone has ever deserved the right to give up, it would be someone like Joost; perhaps you too have had a dreadful experience or critical report handed to you.  What will you do?  Will you give up or will you choose to live and make the most of the time given to you? Joost van der Westhuizen chooses life in the midst of all his troubles, how will you choose?

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Credit:  Edited // Daily Mail

ICC Backyard Cricket Laws

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The ICC have released updates to the Laws of Backyard Cricket exclusively to The Roar.

A redacted copy of ICC backyard cricket laws is produced below:

LAW 1 – DISMISSAL

1a – First Ball

No player can be dismissed first ball.

The purpose of this law is to ensure your Star Trek loving cousin will at least feel compelled to field for a little bit after you get him out 2nd ball.

1b – Auto Wiki

The ‘auto wiki’ playing conditions vary from ground to ground.  As a general rule, auto wiki will extend to a virtual 3rd slip and may / may not include a leg slip.

In situations where a wicket keeper is present, the match referee may still allow for the auto wiki law to be in force.

The auto wiki never drops a catch. The exception is Pakistan, where the auto wiki rarely holds a catch.

1c – One Hand, One Bounce

The Law is only enforceable when the fielder has his other hand occupied with a beverage contained in a glass vessel or sausage in bread.

The One Hand, One Bounce law ensures that batsmen will attempt to keep the ball along the ground, therefore not losing them in the neighbour’s gum tree or down a gutter in the street.

1d – No LBW:

The bowler can never be trusted to form an impartial view on the bona fides of any LBW appeal.

Therefore, an appeal for LBW is automatically declined the moment the appeal begins.

Batsman deliberately blocking the ball with their legs are deemed to be “shit blokes”.

1e – Six And Out

Selfishly hitting the ball over the fence shall lead to the following procedure being enacted:

1) The batsman shall be awarded 6 runs; and

2) The batsman will be deemed Out; and

3) The batsman must recover the ball.

In the event that the ball is unrecoverable, the following procedure shall be enacted:

1) A new ball shall be found; and

2) Should a new ball be found, the batsman who lost the previous ball will no longer be allowed to bat; and

3) Should no new balls be available, all players shall gather in front of the BBQ and remind the batsman what a terrible human being he is.

1f – DRS

Any child under the age of 16 may ask for a review from an adult once per innings. Tears are known to be an effective way to sway the review in your favour.

A person of any age may ask for a review by the host if at a BBQ.

Law not applicable in India

1g – Magic Wickets

A player will be deemed Run Out if the fielding team throws down either wicket with the batsmen out of his ground.

The fielding team shall be the arbiter of whether the batsman has made his ground.

LAW 2 – BOWLING

2a – Standard Over:

The bowler will continue to bowl until either:

1) The batsman asks how many balls left. The bowler is to reply “3” and finish out the over; or

2) Another fielder asks how many balls left. The bowler is to reply “This is my last ball” and finish the over;

2b – Legal Delivery:

Those under 15 years of age may bowl under arm.

The bowling crease shall be loosely marked, either by a crack in the driveway concrete or an imaginary mark on the grass.

The length of the pitch will variable.

LAW 3 – EQUIPMENT

3a – Esky:

The esky shall be placed at either end.

The esky shall be filled with ice and beer.

The esky shall act as the wicket.

Any player spilling the esky will be deemed a “shit bloke”.

3b – Balls:

Only tennis balls shall be allowed.

Taped tennis balls may be used where the pitch is rated dead or you are playing at Damien Fleming’s house.

3c. Dog:

Dogs are to be treated like a loose impediment in golf.

Any ball hitting the dog is “rub of the green”.

Any ball caught by the dog is Out.

Any slobber on the ball is bad luck and must be taken care of by the bowler.

3d – Bat:

Only bats with well worn grips, a fake Allan Border signature and a Gray Nicolls moniker may be used.

Visiting players may bring their own equipment.

Double scoops are prohibited.

LAW 4 – THE SPIRIT OF BACKYARD CRICKET

4a – End of Match:

The game shall be deemed over when:

1) The ladies have brought out the salad and the sausages are ready; or

2) All the balls have been lost; or

3) Steve Smith is batting / Mitch Johnson is bowling on the TV; or

4) Bad light stopped play

4b – Damage to the Garden:

All flower damage shall be deemed to have occurred prior to the start of play.

4e – WAGS:

WAGs shall be permitted to bat by either:

1) invitation; or

2) they have fielded for at least 10 minutes; or

3) they have brought food and / or beer to the players at some stage during the day; or

4) they have been looking after the kids.

WAGs shall bat at their own risk, noting that the bowler may be inebriated.

Credit: Edited // The Roar

10 Things Not To Say To A Depressed Person

Depression is a very sensitive matter, especially for the person suffering from it.  I have a few friends who have depression – various kinds actually, and all of them are awesome people!  When it comes to depression, I find those who don’t suffer from depression to be rather naive on the matter, just as I was.  We seem to box all depression into one broad category and make stupid comments about depression; ultimately we just don’t understand what depression is all about and how to deal with depressed people.

However shocking your experience might be (and perhaps you are that idiot who just keeps putting their massive naive foot in it), it’s time we all made some effort in understanding the white elephant that no one has time for.  Let’s decide to school ourselves and become  a little more informed.  Look, I’m being harsh here, and believe me, I too was very naive and thought that depression was a choice people made – how bad is that?!  I now know that it is far more than just an emotional state.

In the hopes of educating myself and others, I thought this might be a very good place to start.  I recently discovered this article which highlights 10 things not to say to a depressed person:

1. It’s all in your head. You need to think positive.

While optimism is certainly important in training the brain, studies have shown that people who are severely depressed or acutely anxious only activate their amydalas (fear center of the brain) by forcing positive thinking.

2. You need to get out of yourself and give back to the community.

This is one that certainly makes bad things worse. Because now, in addition to feeling severely depressed, a person also feels guilty and self-absorbed. Yes, giving back is important, but only when a person is healthy enough to hold a ladle at a soup kitchen.

3. Why don’t you try and exercise?

This is good advice. Exercise has strong antidepressant effects. However telling someone that they need to exercise is a little like telling someone their butt looks fat in those jeans. You need to hint at it, but not put it directly on the table, or else the person may very well take up kick-boxing and practice with you.

4. Shop at Whole Foods and you will feel better.

Why does this get me? Because 1) I don’t have the money to shop at Whole Foods, and 2) although I know that my diet affects my mood, and the more organic the better, I resent your telling me that my Frosted Flakes is what’s causing power outage in the left frontal lobe of my brain.

5. Meditation and yoga are all you need.

While some make the claim that meditation of one form or another is a fix for mild and moderate depression, the reality is that depression is much more complex. There is no quick fix and so, to suggest that a single course of action is needed, may be irresponsible. Yes, there is value in doing something relaxing, which takes one’s mind off things, but there’s so much more to it than that. Acute anxiety and severe depression are different animals altogether. In fact, my suicidal thoughts worsened with yoga.

6. Get a new job.

Maybe the job is making your loved one depressed. Stress is never a good thing for our health, and especially our emotional health. It pours toxins into our bloodstream. But don’t encourage a major decision while the person is depressed. A balanced perspective is needed.

7. Are you happy in your relationship?

Again, relationship problems might certainly be triggering the depression, but I’ve talked to too many people who almost left their husbands and wives when they were clinically depressed, thinking that something around them must be the problem. Since a spouse is the closest thing, he or she gets blamed for the mood dips.

8. You have everything you need to get better.

This, of course, implies that all pharmaceutics are toxins that do nothing more than dull your emotions. Guess what? Some forms of modern medicine actually aid recovery!! Seriously! Kind of like chemotherapy for cancer patients, and insulin for diabetes. Would you tell a woman with breast cancer she has everything she needs to get better? No. I didn’t think so.

9. Do you WANT to feel better?

This was my very favorite. Because it suggests that we can ‘will’ ourselves to be as happy as we want. Want to be a little more giddy? Let me just adjust the optimism lever a tad. There we go … happy again! Again, I do think you do to watch your thoughts, retrain them and retrain them, applying tools for optimism. But I don’t think we can pull ourselves up by our bootstraps without any help every time. Please don’t make the person feel like a failure in addition to depressed.

10. Everyone has problems.

Although mentioned in the CBS News article, it’s important to note again because it comes up so often. Forget about Congo and Bangladesh when talking to a depressed loved one. Some people absolutely do have it worse. But that doesn’t make their pain any less real or profound. Chances are if you do bring it up, they will also feel weak and pathetic … like they have no right to feel the way they feeling, which will, of course, make them feel worse.

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Credits: Edited // Psychcentral

The Perfect Marriage

We all want the perfect marriage and we want it to last!  I’m not certain that the perfect marriage exists, but what I can reiterate is that marriage is fun and doing life with your spouse is an experience of note!  Yes there are tough days when you feel like you want to ring each other’s necks, and then there are days where it’s all sunshine and roses and you just fall in love all over again!

Now, you might be single and not married at this stage.  You too can use these key points and apply them once you do decide to tie the knot.

In searching for the winning formula of making a marriage last, I discovered 30 key points that a survey revealed.

Here are the Top 30 things that make the perfect marriage:

  1. Accepting each other’s faults
  2. Trust
  3. Honesty
  4. Respecting each other
  5. Supporting each other
  6. Being able to say sorry
  7. Being kind to each other
  8. Saying ‘I love you’
  9. Quality time together
  10. Give and take on both sides
  11. Compromising
  12. Loyalty
  13. Being best friends
  14. A positive outlook/personality
  15. Having a sense of humour
  16. Understanding
  17. Giving each other time alone
  18. Sharing the household duties
  19. Not criticizing each other in front of others
  20. Regular sex
  21. Talking everything through
  22. Shared interests
  23. Being able to argue and forget about it
  24. Remembering anniversaries and birthdays
  25. Regular kisses and cuddles
  26. Sharing parental duties
  27. Deep and meaningful conversations
  28. Ending an argument before going to bed
  29. Spontaneous romantic gestures
  30. Regular vacations together

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Credit: Edited // Daily Mail

What Happened To Good Music?

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Hannah Montana became Miley Cyrus and Sonny (with a chance) became Demi Lovato, and the list goes on…

I’ve seen this time and time again when it comes to good singers who make amazing music!  The one minute these pop stars are cute, pretty and mostly great role models for young kids, the next they become ugly monsters with virtually no moral compass and seem to completely loose the plot; or at least that’s the way it appears.  I used to be such a fan of Demi Lovato.  Her voice is absolutely amazing with great power and control.  From Sonny with a Chance to Camp Rock it was good, clean music all the way and children appreciated the role model she was. Now, Demi is swearing at live concerts and in her latest song, Cool for the Summer, she is barely clothed in the music video, and quite honestly I didn’t stick around to finish it – I was too disgusted.

Now, I’m not here to hate on Demi or Miley.  Yes, I’m disappointed (that is my prerogative), but my greater concern is:  what drives these very talented and innocent pop stars to the point of destruction?  Does the pressure of having to fit into a particular culture force them into that space?  Is it this particular look that sells albums?

This then brings me to another question:

What happened to good music?  All I hear on the radio these days are lyrics that a 5 year old could write – with very little creativity whatsoever, and repetitive words with seemingly no meaning; not to mention the immoral innuendo these songs portray. Now, not all music is bad, but something is seriously wrong with this picture.

I vote we stop putting pressure on performers and allow them to just be.  Imagine how awesome it would be if talented singers and writers could just be themselves (as they would be in the privacy of their own homes with no one watching), and not have the pressure of trading their values and morals for more likes, shares and money.

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How I See It

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We all view the world from our own perspectives, which are mostly influenced and determined by our social environments, family values & beliefs, schooling, peers and cultural influences…  How I see it, and how you see it will be very different.

A recent nationwide survey completed by the Barna Research Group determined that only 4 percent of Americans had a “biblical” worldview. When George Barna, who has researched cultural trends and the Christian Church since 1984, looked at the “born- again” believers in America, the results were a dismal 9 percent.

Barna’s survey also connected an individual’s worldview with his or her moral beliefs and actions. Barna says, “Although most people own a Bible and know some of its content, our research found that most Americans have little idea how to integrate core biblical principles to form a unified and meaningful response to the challenges and opportunities of life.”

1. What’s a worldview?

A worldview is the framework from which we view reality and make sense of life and the world. “[It’s] any ideology, philosophy, theology, movement or religion that provides an overarching approach to understanding God, the world and man’s relations to God and the world,” says David Noebel, author of Understanding the Times.

For example, a 2-year-old believes he’s the center of his world, a secular humanist believes that the material world is all that exists, and a Buddhist believes he can be liberated from suffering by self-purification.

Someone with a biblical worldview believes his primary reason for existence is to love and serve God.

Whether conscious or subconscious, every person has some type of worldview. A personal worldview is a combination of all you believe to be true, and what you believe becomes the driving force behind every emotion, decision and action. Therefore, it affects your response to every area of life: from philosophy to science, theology and anthropology to economics, law, politics, art and social order — everything.

For example, let’s suppose you have bought the idea that beauty is in the eye of the beholder (secular relative truth) as opposed to beauty as defined by God’s purity and creativity (absolute truth). Then any art piece, no matter how vulgar or abstract, would be considered “art,” a creation of beauty.

2. What’s a biblical worldview?

A biblical worldview is based on the infallible Word of God. When you believe the Bible is entirely true, then you allow it to be the foundation of everything you say and do. That means, for instance, you take seriously the mandate in Romans 13 to honor the governing authorities by researching the candidates and issues, making voting a priority.

Do you have a biblical worldview? Answer the following questions, based on claims found in the Bible and which George Barna used in his survey:

Do absolute moral truths exist?
Is absolute truth defined by the Bible?
Did Jesus Christ live a sinless life?
Is God the all-powerful and all-knowing Creator of the universe, and does He still rule it today?
Is salvation a gift from God that cannot be earned?
Is Satan real?
Does a Christian have a responsibility to share his or her faith in Christ with other people?
Is the Bible accurate in all of its teachings?

Did you answer yes to these? Only 9 percent of “born- again” believers did. But what’s more important than your yes to these questions is whether your life shows it. Granted, we are all sinners and fall short, but most of our gut reactions will reflect what we deep-down, honest-to-goodness believe to be real and true.

3. How does a biblical worldview get diluted?

Here is the big problem. Nonbiblical worldview ideas don’t just sit in a book somewhere waiting for people to examine them. They bombard us constantly from television, film, music, newspapers, magazines, books and academia.

Because we live in a selfish, fallen world, these ideas seductively appeal to the desires of our flesh, and we often end up incorporating them into our personal worldview. Sadly, we often do this without even knowing it.

For example, most Christians would agree with 1 Thessalonians 4:3 and other Scriptures that command us to avoid sexual immorality, but how often do Christians fall into lust or premarital and extramarital sexual sin? Is it simply because they are weak when tempted, or did it begin much earlier, with the seductive lies from our sexualized society?

4. Why does a biblical worldview matter?

If we don’t really believe the truth of God and live it, then our witness will be confusing and misleading. Most of us go through life not recognizing that our personal worldviews have been deeply affected by the world. Through the media and other influences, the secularized American view of history, law, politics, science, God and man affects our thinking more than we realize. We then are taken “captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the basic principles of this world rather than on Christ” (Colossians 2:8).

However, by diligently learning, applying and trusting God’s truths in every area of our lives — whether it’s watching a movie, communicating with our spouses, raising our children or working at the office — we can begin to develop a deep comprehensive faith that will stand against the unrelenting tide of our culture’s nonbiblical ideas. If we capture and embrace more of God’s worldview and trust it with unwavering faith, then we begin to make the right decisions and form the appropriate responses to questions on abortion, same- sex marriage, cloning, stem-cell research and even media choices. Because, in the end, it is our decisions and actions that reveal what we really believe.

“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2).

The power ultimately lies in our hands, we decide how we will react and respond to all the info that we get bombarded with on a daily basis.  You and I need to make daily conscious decisions as to how we will view the world and all the info we consume.

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Credit: Edited // Focus on the Family

Justin Bieber Listens to Bethel Music

Pop star Justin Bieber listens to Bethel Music and is apparently a fan of worship music. Biebs was recently part of a Cosmopolitan magazine “21 Things You Didn’t Know About …” list, where it was revealed (along with other pieces of random trivia), what his top three songs were on his iPod. (The question was evidently adapted from a Q&A he recently did with fans.) Along with tracks from Lil Wayne and Drake, Bieber included “No Longer Slaves” from Jonathan and Melissa Helser of Bethel Music. The pop star has been vocal about his faith in the past, and was even baptized by leaders from New York’s Hillsong Church last year.

 

Can you imagine the kind of pressure Justin must be under, the hectic demand that his music and modeling career puts on him; and then in the midst of all of that, he boldly states that he is spiritually awakening and is seeking a deeper relationship with Jesus?

So what is my excuse, what is your excuse?  Not all of us are in the limelight and the main interest of the paparazzi, so why is it that we hide our faith and don’t boldly stand for what we believe in?

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Credit:  Edited // Relevant Magazine

The Dangers Of Social Media

You’ve heard it said that too much of a good thing is a bad thing.  How could social media, which is a good thing, also be a bad thing?  The dangers of social media are very real – the proof is in the pudding.

There are over 750,000 registered child predators in the United States.

And Social media is an ever growing platform that we use to connect with current and long lost friends, and family members. We also use to to connect with new friends we make. But in some instances, it’s used to connect with people that we don’t know. In this video, Coby Persin creates a social experiment with the permission of the teenage girl’s parents, creates a fake facebook profile and starts chatting with these underage girls.

In all cases the girls respond, and then something more surprising happens… they agree to meet up with a complete stranger when their parents are not around. What was found in this video is shocking and everyone should see. Be sure to watch until the end, and use what we’ve learned in this video to better educate your friends and family.

Watch this video and observe the dangers of social media.

Credit:  Edited // allviralposts

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