Do you ever get tired of this saying? You know, when someone hurts you, disappoints you or makes you mad and all your friend has to say is, “Oh just let it go. Be the bigger person.” Well, I’m sorry, what if I’m tired of being the bigger person? What if I’ve had enough of always having to let things go? Why can’t the other person be the bigger person for a change? Why does it always have to be me?

Ha, I know I’m ranting now but have you ever caught yourself saying this or at least thinking it? I hope I’m not the only one!

Truth is, it’s easy to get offended and mad when people do us wrong. What’s difficult, is to be the bigger person. So what does it look like to be the bigger person?

  1. Keep short accounts – I know it’s not as easy as it sounds, but we need to be slow to get angry and be quick to forgive. Life is short and what is a huge issue today will end up being a distant memory tomorrow. Spend your energy on things that matter.
  2. Be the example – I once read a great quote from D.L. Moody that said, “The best way to show that a stick is crooked is not to argue about it or to spend time denouncing it, but to lay a straight stick alongside it.” Instead of arguing your point or trying to convince the other person why you are right, rather show them with your life.

So the next time someone cuts in front of you in traffic, or takes your seat, or steals your idea and pitches it to your boss, or manipulates you or goes behind your back or [the list goes on and on], take a deep breath and don’t react. Rather, behave in the way you wish they would and I think maybe, just maybe, if more of us start doing that, this world would be a better place.

It’s not easy to be the bigger person, especially when everything within us just wants to tell them off. The Bible tells us that what seems impossible to us, is possible with God. The more I read God’s Word and spend time meditating on Him, the easier it becomes to be the bigger person. Jesus has an amazing way of transforming our human nature into a more godly one.

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