Before you read any further, let me say that this is post is specifically for the singles (like me)!

The end of the year is coming up. The time of year that my primary school principal labelled, “silly season.”

You know, when everyone is so thankful that the year is over that they start celebrating – happy because it’s summer, letting their guards down, making bad decisions in moment’s of weakness – and more…

Lord, you alone are my portion and my cup; you make my lot secure. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance.

Psalms 16:5 (NIV)

In order for life to be successful (and for all of us not to regret what went down during the festive season), it is important that clear boundaries are set in our lives; boundaries in all areas of our life – especially in the area of sexuality.

SEXUAL BOUNDARIES:

Let’s try to do everything possible to be young people who know and love the Word of God: this includes personal devotions, Bible teaching church, messages, godly books, family altar and so on.

For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children: 6 That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children:7 That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments: 8 And might not be as their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation; a generation that set not their heart aright, and whose spirit was not steadfast with God.

Psalms 78:5 (KJV)

 Doing Things Gods Way Enables You To:

  • Set Your hope in God … build your dreams and your future around God;
  • Rely on Him … remember His works
  • Obey Him… clear rules are vital. For example, if you need to set a curfew for yourself so that you can maintain purity and not get into sticky situations, then do so!

Without Godliness, We Become:

  • Stubborn, which means we turn away morally, back slide and withdraw (Strongs Concordance);
  • Rebellious … which means to make bitter or unpleasant, to be disobedient, and contentious
  • Unset of heart … fickle passions – given to compromise
  • Unsteady of spirit … apt to disappoint

Building Boundaries and Reinforcement:                 

Building our character to do sexuality the Godly way is important, because the “worldly” system and the kingdom have two completely different standards…

For jealousy and selfishness are not God’s kind of wisdom. Such things are earthly, unspiritual, and demonic. But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.

James 3:15 (NLT)

Listen, we may think that God is trying to stop our fun, and maybe we’ve been holding all of our sexual frustration in for the whole year and still find ourselves single with NO prospects at all, but, even though it seems harder, God’s ways are easier!

Plus, His grace for us is more than enough (it’s really not by our own strength that we are able to do anything…).

For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. 12 It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age…”

Titus 2:11(NIV)

I love the words from the hymn Amazing Grace by ex-slave trader John Newton, “GRACE HAS BROUGHT ME SAFE THUS FAR AND GRACE WILL LEAD ME HOME!!” You got this baby. Just believe that Jesus has the best for you!

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