Do you ever feel like the season you are currently in is over, but you’re not sure so you stick around a bit longer?
I found myself stuck in a difficult situation recently when I decided to move to a house. The process ended up being a lot harder than I thought it would be because some of the people involved were making it difficult to fully step into this next season of my life.
It came down to one difficult decision: the choice between securing something for my future (not to mention something that will save me money) or sticking around in order to make it easier on other people.
As you can guess, I decided on a more secure future. It wasn’t easy, but I did it. There were some difficult conversations to have, along with uneasy feelings and in some cases even childlike behaviour. However, I got through it. At first I felt a little bad, but now I’m totally happy with my decision.
So how do you know when a season is over?
You need to look out for the signs. You can often tell that a season is over when the people involved become unsettled. They may even become angry – not with you, but just because they are wrestling internally (which may result in “friendly fire” coming your way).
Sometimes a season is over when it starts getting uncomfortable. Don’t get me wrong, it’s often good to be in uncomfortable situations – I believe it grows you and stretches your capacity – but on the odd occasion you’ll feel so uncomfortable that you’ll almost feel like you are moving backwards rather than forwards.
It’s okay to think of yourself sometimes. Trust me, that’s a difficult one for me. I used to try and please people but to be honest, pleasing others gets you nowhere in life. Sometimes investing in your future means making tough decisions about your own wellbeing. It’s always good to help others and to be there for them, but don’t ever let people make you feel bad for stepping into a new season.
Just remember that when God brings new seasons along our path, it’s up to us to prepare ourselves. Be prepared and know that your next season will bring many new possibilities!
Godspeed.