It’s no surprise that some marriages take strain when you add kids to the mix. Relaxing moments, down time, and peace and quiet seem few and far between. Add sleep deprivation to that crazy mix, and couples end up retreating emotionally as a means of survival – which in turn causes us to neglect our partners. We then stop pouring love into one another, because we feel like we have nothing left to give, and our marriages start to crumble.
However, the good news is that we do not need to accept that as the norm. We do not need to give up on our partners, or give up on the love that is shared between one another. The sad reality is that if we are not aware of keeping the love alive with our partners, our relationships will take a downward spiral. I say this because it can so easily happen if we are not aware of it.
At the end of the day we need to invest in keeping the love alive between husband and wife, as they are the ones that we do life with; we help carry each other through the storms of life, and we are each other’s biggest cheer leaders! Therefore we cannot afford to be lazy in the way we choose to love our partners. We cannot hold back our love, or be stingy with it. Even though we may feel drained and overwhelmed trying to juggle everything that life throws at us, we need to still place value on each other.
A great marriage takes work, and it takes effort, and it requires two individuals to go above and beyond and love unconditionally, no matter the season. There is always time to press the refresh button on your marriage, and find ways to shower your partner with love. Why not start today?
How do we keep the love alive?
DATE DAYS / DATE NIGHTS
Often as parents , we tend to live the day to day just for our children. It happens sometimes with the greatest of intentions, because after all we want our children to feel loved and secure around us. However, we need to feel loved too, especially by our partners. Try looking for ways where you can create the space and time for one another where you go out together, alone without the kids. Maybe you need to be a little more intentional about scheduling in little date days or date nights , and book the baby sitters in advance! Little getaways for you and your partner can breathe fresh life and romance into your marriage!
DO SOMETHING NEW TOGETHER
Find something different that you and your partner have never done together and go and try it out! Go to the theatre, watch a live band perform, go shark cave diving, try out a new restaurant – basically go out and find a new adventure for you and your partner to explore and experience together. As long as you are together, discovering new things, laughing and enjoying one another’s company.
ENCOURAGE ONE ANOTHER
So often we forget to encourage those closest to us, maybe because we see them all the time, and we think that surely “they must know…”, but in fact they don’t know how we feel about them because we hold back on the encouragement! I firmly believe that encouragement and words of affirmation should become the norm within a marriage. Words that speak power, that speak of love and of value, can make others feel empowered and cherished! People flourish when sincere words of encouragement and love are spoken over them and about them. Find ways where you actively take note of your partner and the things that they are interested in and find ways to speak love and encouragement over them and watch them beam with love!
Marriage between two people should be enjoyed, not endured. God wants your marriage to prosper no matter what the season looks like! Start believing today, that with God’s help, grace and wisdom you can see God breathe fresh life over your marriage. All we need to do is call on Him, and ask Him for His help, as we do not need to do it on our own!
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