It’s a question that most guys try to avoid answering at all costs.
“Do I look fat in this?”
There we were, my girlfriend and I, enjoying a peaceful day out, just walking around the mall having a look at clothes, an getting some food. It was actually a very pleasant day. We saw a shop that we were both interested in, and decided to go in. We browsed a bit, and my girlfriend found something she liked.
She went to try it on, while I was still browsing. A few moments later she texted me, and asked me to come see if it looks good on her. I walked into the changing room (which was kind of awkward because it was mostly girls).
“Does this look good?” she asked.
Now if you’re a guy, you know the answer should be and always will be “Yes, you look beautiful”. Without hesitation, I gave my answer.
To which she replied: “Do I look fat in this?”
You already know there’s one of two ways this can go: it can either go wrong, or horribly wrong. I’m kidding, it was not that bad – my first instinct was to say she looked amazing in it, and that I loved her no matter what. It all ended well enough.
However, a few weeks later I asked my girlfriend what guys are actually supposed to say in a situation like that. Following our conversation, here are a few tips I can share:
1. Don’t be too quick on the draw: When asked that all-important question, don’t be too quick to answer. Answer calmly, and make sure you’re not just giving a rehearsed answer.
2. Be honest: It’s never just as simple as “Yes, you do”. Give her a truthful and encouraging answer, one that helps her see how beautiful she is to you, without resorting to over-the-top compliments.
3. Follow up: A few days after being asked that question, remember to mention how good she looks in that dress. Remind her how much you love her.
I hope this helped – it sure has helped me!
Godspeed.