If you are dating someone seriously, how peaceful do you feel when you think about marrying that person? Committing your heart to someone is a huge decision. If you choose poorly, you could suffer years of heartache or wind up abused or divorced. However, if you select a marriage partner wisely, you could enjoy a lifetime together of intimate love and passion.
Sadly, some couples rush toward marriage as soon as they taste the initial burst of romance. They may have only dated for a few months, but their blissful feelings convince them that they are destined for each other. By contrast, other couples date for years but never find the courage to make a commitment. They so dread marrying the wrong person that they do not marry at all. In the midst of these extremes, how can a single adult sensibly decide whom to marry?
The good news is that, you don’t have to be alone in your decision-making process. God is always willing to offer His divine wisdom in every situation so that you don’t have to rely upon your emotions or finite wisdom. So what is the most important question to ask before getting married?
Will Jesus be the center of our marriage?
This question pertains to the most important aspect of your relationship—the spiritual. If you or your date do not know Jesus as the primary Source of love, then you will try to manipulate love from one another. Depending upon performance-based human love is like eating chocolate—it may taste good, but it cannot satisfy you.
The first purpose in marriage—beyond happiness, sexual expression, the bearing of children, companionship, mutual care and provision or anything else—is to please God. The challenge, of course, is that it is utterly selfless living; rather than asking, “What will make me happy?” we are told that we must ask, “What will make God happy?”
To Jesus, romantic passion is the wrong foundation for a marriage. He wants you to give your heart to someone on the basis of character and passionate sacrificial love.
Your heart needs more than romantic affection to survive; it needs unconditional love, which can only be found in Jesus Christ. Thus, it is best for you and your partner to realize the importance of depending upon Him for fulfillment. He can help you love one another more deeply.
You will not have to struggle on your own to be a good spouse. Jesus will lead you to love one another in the best manner. This creates real intimacy. You can rest and allow Jesus to love your spouse through you. This kind of love creates a much stronger bond between couples.
God wants the best for you. He can work through your heart and mind to direct you toward a good relationship and dissuade you from a bad one. However, you can only discern His counsel when you are willing to listen and yield to Him.
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Portions of content sourced from : relevantmagazine.com, cbn.com [edited]