Base your worth on your social media following
It’s okay if you don’t get 100 likes on your pic of you and your bestie eating strawberry ice cream on the beach front. It’s okay if nobody wants to follow you. It’s okay if you would rather invest your energy in something other than social media.
Compare yourself to your friends
The best things in life take time and they happen at different times in everybody’s lives. You probably won’t end up at your dream job at the same time as your friends. And your friends won’t see things happen in their lives when they happen in yours. Encourage each other when cool things happen, and try not stress if it hasn’t happened to you yet.
Stay in a relationship because you are scared to be alone
Or scared nobody else will like you. Or scared because this is all you’ve ever known and you’ve become very comfortable. Your 20’s is a good time to end half-hearted relationships before they default into forever.
Justify all your choices
You are an adult now. You don’t need to justify all your choices to everyone in your zone. If people don’t agree with you, then be okay with it. You weren’t created to make people happy but rather created to make choices and experience life.
Fish for your value from others
Trust me, all your friends will get bored very quickly if they feel like you need them to validate you. It’s nobody’s job to validate you. You are enough. You don’t need to base your self-worth on someone else’s opinion.
Feel insignificant because you are young
Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something because of your age. People have done crazy things at every age and it was because they didn’t let small-minded people hold them back. Be brave and go for it.
Hang out with toxic people
Seriously, why? Why are you doing this? You are no longer in school and forced to hang out with demarcated people. Cut the chord, let old friendships go if they are not taking you forward. You’re not being mean, you’re being smart.
Say you’ll improve your life and then never doing it
20 year olds always say stuff but their follow through rate is low. Write a list, set a deadline, reach your goals – it’s all on you. Ain’t nobody gonna make it happen for you.
Become stuck in your comfort zone
The comfort zone is the place dreams go to die. Nothing worthwhile happens there. It’s the anthesis of life. Leave the zone, dream, make a mistake, fail, learn and do it all again.
Live like a piglet
If you live like a piglet, you feel like a piglet. Just cause Mom isn’t on your back doesn’t mean you can’t pick up your own clothes, clean the toilet, wash your gym T-shirts. Look after what you have, many people don’t have all the beautiful things you do.
Do things because you feel obliged
Don’t say yes out loud when inside you are shouting no. Learning to say no is one of the best things you can do with your life. Set some boundaries and learn how to communicate them.
Feel like you need to know everything right away
News flash – you never will. You will keep messing up until the day you die. This is life and it’s good because it keeps us humble and shows us that we need more than just ourselves in order to succeed. Be happy about what you’ve accomplished and don’t stress because you don’t have a 5 figure paycheck.
Believe you must be married in your 20s
For some reason we all picture ourselves getting married before 30. Why? Get married when you meet someone who makes your heart dance. And don’t let this silly pressure ruin your life in the meantime.
Pretend you are fine
Adult things happen in your 20s and a lot of adult things hurt. They hurt and they require time, patience and support to work through. Give yourself these things. Do the healing process well and allow the baggage to drop.
Judge EVERYBODY
“Her hair,” “Her boyfriend,” “His body,” – nobody is perfect and nor are you. Use your words to build people up instead of tearing them down.
Be afraid to ask for help
Okay yes you are an adult now, but everyone, even the most adult of all adults needs help. When we ask for help we are being wise. We are doing the RIGHT thing. Don’t be afraid to reach out when you need it.
Think you are always correct
Dude, it’s okay to be wrong. I promise. You are still a human. Keep an open mind and accept when you’re wrong so you can learn for next time.
Ignore the hard questions about life
Just because it feels like you have your whole life to pick religious beliefs doesn’t mean you should ignore the greater questions of why we are here and what our purpose is. Take time to explore faith and religion.