Whether we’re online or offline, in real life we are sometimes faced with very unhealthy people. Without realizing it at times we let these unhealthy people influence our thoughts, emotions and actions. It happens so easily, and it happens when we aren’t conscious of it. However, eventually the negative influence will show itself in our behavior. The negative influence could make us feel: inferior, insecure, or negative about everything. It may even encourage us to become selfish, to gossip and to judge others, or to act unkind and unloving towards others.
UNFOLLOW THE UNHEALTHY
Sometimes we will encounter people online or offline, that are negative, superficial, rude, judgmental, overly opinionated, insecure, or jealous. Their words are negative, their actions are unhealthy, and somehow it rubs off on us. Then in turn we start to feel down, negative, insecure, judgmental, or highly opinionated. Or maybe they make us feel despondent, fearful, and insecure around them. Sometimes we forget that negative people should never hold any weight or power over us. We have the choice whether we want those unhealthy people to play a part in the shaping of our lives.
I love this quote that was Tweeted by Julia A’Bell :
Suggestion: Unfollow people who are unhealthy for your soul. (Why do it to yourself?)
UNFOLLOW ONLINE
So simple, yet so very powerful! If it’s not good or healthy for your soul, then why entertain it? If it is not adding goodness to your life, then why waste time on it? If people (online or offline) are not influencing, shaping or inspiring us to be better, then why follow them? I have recently done an online social media spring cleaning of sorts, whereby I have unfollowed “influencers” that I did not feel were adding goodness to my life. It was nerve-wracking at first, but truth be told I have not missed those unhealthy people at all. If anything I feel better for it!
UNFOLLOW OFFLINE
Unfollowing people in real life can be a bit tricky, especially if this unhealthy person is a friend, family member, or someone we work with. Somehow with them we may need extra grace, patience and love for them. Yet, we also needs to be wise with what we allow into our hearts when we are around them. This may mean being more aware of the relationship dynamic, and to know where the weak areas are.
However, be extra wise and cautious when entertaining relationships with unhealthy people, know where to draw the line, and make it clear to them and to yourself where that line is. If they are unwilling to grow, and you feel that the relationship dynamic is unhealthy and will not resolve itself, then step back from it for a moment. Press pause on it, and evaluate if the relationship is worth your time and effort. We have the choice what we allow and entertain in our lives. Choose wisely!