Sometimes I feel like I’m that “uncool yet still cool” kind of person. As I have no idea what is popular, trendy, or cool by society’s standards. When people talk about the latest gadgets, hip coffee shops, new clothing ‘must haves’, I feel totally clueless. I’m not sure if it has anything to do with me being in my thirties or having a different evolving attitude and perceptions on life. But material things don’t really entice me like it used to.

Being cool, or trendy, sounds so exhausting, and definitely sounds expensive – especially when you have to keep up with every new trend, and be ‘in the know’ constantly.  I’m also okay not being apart of any ‘cool’ or ‘popular group’ of people. Why? All those things look cool, maybe feel cool, but it’s a not a long-lasting, meaningful encounter. It’s a shallow, surface level, fly-by-night kind of thing. One minute it’s there, the next minute it’s not. Then we replace it with the next thing, and so on and so forth. It’s not filling, it’s not soulful, and it does not hold significant weight.

To me what makes someone really cool, is a beautiful heart. Whatever flows from the heart impacts and influences an individuals daily actions and it shapes their character. If our hearts are filled with beautiful things, our character and personality will shine brightly to others, hence being cool because of having a beautiful heart.

BEING COOL …..

Means loving others unconditionally and sincerely.

Means always believing the best about others.

Means being kind and gracious with others.

Means lending a hand to someone in need.

Means befriending someone who feels lonely or shy.

Means being an encourager of others.

Means speaking highly of others.

Means being honest with others.

Means staying loyal.

Means choosing to forgive others.

Being cool should never come down to external factors, or relying on material goods to find our confidence and sense of self-worth. Being cool should come from having a beautiful heart that treasures beautiful things. Sometimes, we need to check-in with our heart to see if it’s in a good place. As we may need to realign our focus, and put things into the right perspective. Let’s change our attitudes, by nurturing our hearts wisely and well.

What other things would you add to the above being cool list?