Have you ever had a moment where you feel like you just do not fit in? A moment where you feel like there is not another human on the planet that will ever be able to relate to you? I’ll be the first one to say I struggle to fit in sometimes. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to fit in everywhere, neither does my identity lie in fitting in with others, but sometimes I find it hard to relate to those around me.
Sometimes you try and push through the lies you tell yourself and the negative inner dialogue that’s going on inside you, but it’s still hard. It seems like a lost battle, to be honest.
I’ve been on this journey for a while. But let me tell you a secret: it’s not you. There’s nothing wrong with you. You are the best “you” that you can be, and there is nothing that will change that. Don’t ever feel like you need to change the way you speak or act because you’re trying to fit in with others.
For such a long time that was me: I tried to change the way I talked and looked, just so I could fit in and be affirmed by people. However, I’ve found it’s easier to just be me. It requires no effort to be me. It’s how I was born.
It’s time to start looking at yourself like God looks at you: as his creation, and someone He loves. Look at what David says about himself in the Bible:
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. – Psalm 139:13-14
The only thing you need to be is real. God made you who you are for a reason. Stop trying to be someone else to fit in, and be who he called you to be.
Godspeed