Have you ever heard it said, “Women belong in the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant?” What a bizarre saying! Let’s be honest though, for many years, and now in some cultures, women are labelled as the cooks and cleaners of the household.

But who says I have to cook? Just because I’m a woman, do I have to be the one in the kitchen cooking all the meals? Why?

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not some sort of feminist nazi who thinks women should revolt against everything feminine and domestic. I’m just asking the questions.

You see in my household, my husband gets home before I do. He loves to cook and he’s really talented at it. So why do I have to cook? Just because I’m the wife and mother? No, I don’t think so.

You have to do what works for your family. My husband makes dinner and then I make sure everything is cleaned up. I do the washing, make the children’s school lunches, take them to and from school, clean the bathrooms (the list goes on).

So if my husband wants to take up cooking of dinner, guess what? I’m going to let him! We share the responsibilities of the household and we do what works for our household.

In seasons where I got home before him, I would do the cooking and I’m sure I will again if our seasons change. But for now, it works for us.

So what about you? Is your household running according to what society dictates you should do, or is it running according to what works for you?

I just think there should be freedom to do things in your family that makes everyone’s lives easier. There’s no right or wrong way to share the household responsibilities as long as no one person feels burdened and overwhelmed.

So here’s a few things I try to remember:

  1. Find what works for your household and do that: Don’t feel bad about what people might say or think. It’s your life to live, not theirs!
  2. It’s a partnership: In a partnership, roles are interchangeable according to the need and season. Don’t get stuck in a rut. As long as you are tackling the household duties together, it doesn’t really matter who does what, as long as it’s getting done.

I hope this helps you today and gives you the freedom to change up things in your home to make life easier for everyone!

Marriage requires much love, patience and perseverance to make it great. The one thing that really helps hold everything together is that we both put God first in our lives and in our marriage.

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