Why hasn’t anyone fallen madly in love with me?
This question haunts even the most confident women and men. You’re not alone. It comes up when you’ve spent years without settling in a good relationship and you finally reach the point of wanting to give up on love.
There are many reasons why people are single. There are people who are single due to the circumstances of their lives. They may have just gotten out of a meaningful relationship or just haven’t found someone with whom they’re truly compatible.
When you type the question “why am I still single” in Google, a long list of articles are displayed, mostly listing issues having to do with being too angry, bitter or too independent, being too picky, having fear of commitment or intimacy, low-self-esteem, past hurts, unforgiveness etc; all possible reasons why we may still be single. In some cases, it is true; and with a bit of honesty with ourselves, we may discover that there’s something in our character or our routine that’s delaying the loving relationship we desire to have. If you asked the question “why am I still single” with an open mind and in the spirit of wanting to know the truth, doing some introspection might be the best place to start , then take steps towards making changes where necessary.
On the other side, we don’t have full control of our lives and events that happen in them. Anyone going through prolonged singleness is all too familiar with the anger, sadness, confusion and distrust that accompany some of those “alone” moments. On the outside, we surely know how to look good, but deep inside, there’s a longing for that someone to cherish us above anyone else.
Though sometimes you might be reminded of these potential reasons why you may still be single, today let’s look at things with a different and much deeper perspective. God knows you better than yourself, and sees your desire and hears your every cry.
The challenge with most of our internal struggles is we tend to think no one really understands what we’re going through, so we prefer to keep our problems to ourselves. When, alone at night, you cry yourself to sleep wondering why you’re not one of your friends who are joined at the hip and raising a beautiful family, remember that you are not alone . God’s love for you is more than you could ever ask and He sees your desire for intimacy, connection and security and He’s willing to give you what’s best for you, when it’s best for you to have it. He knows why things have to happen the way they are happening now. Perhaps it’s just a matter of time before that special someone sweeps you off your feet. But whatever the future holds for you, you don’t have to go through any difficult moment of your life alone. Keep your hope alive and don’t give up on any of your dreams!
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