“If everyone else jumped into a burning fire, would you jump into it too?” Do you remember being rhetorically asked that question by your parents as kid when you found yourself wanting to do the things that all the other cool kids were doing and justify it with “but everyone else is doing it!” As children growing up we wanted to fit in, to feel a part of the group, and ultimately to feel accepted by others; which is a normal human desire. Hence, when we grow up, we still sometimes want to feel connected, to feel like we are loved, and accepted by others.
Maybe, as a means of finding human connection and acceptance, we force ourselves to do things that we think may make us feel more like everybody else and more loved by others. We may even find ourselves admiring somebody else, or a grouping of people who live and do things a certain way. At times we might then try to force ourselves to be more like them, to do things like them, to almost mimic them, as a means of feeling connected and accepted. We then end up becoming a watered down version of ourselves, as we are using all of our energy and time to be something that we are not.
Don’t let fear drive you
Fear and insecurities often lead us astray, and they distract us from our unique calling. Fear sometimes drives us in the completely opposite direction, and causes us to think, feel, live, and behave in ways that are contrary to who we ought to really be. Sometimes we let fear drive us when it comes to the acceptance and love of others, because we fear rejection. We fear not being loved for who we are, we even may fear that who we are isn’t good enough. We may even fear that who we are may ultimately lead us into a path of loneliness.
Let God’s love lead you
Fear can never lead or bring us to any soulful or spiritual fullness. It will constantly lie to us, and trick us into thinking otherwise all of the time. However, when we understand and get to know the heart and love that God has towards us (all of us) we start to see ourselves as worthy, as valuable, as precious, as beautifully and wonderfully made.
When God’s love fills us, it pushes fear aside, we then no longer strive to “fit in”. We purely just strive to please God through our words and actions. When we let love lead in our hearts, we become more secure in who we are, and will no longer desperately try to find the need to feel accepted by every other person. Instead we will confidently own and celebrate who we are with the world.
Let God’s unconditional and pure love lead you in your day-to-day. If this post has spoken to you and you would love to know more about being in a relationship with God, then may I encourage you to click on the link below.